The trick to being successful is firstly, knowing what success means to you. Know what your goal is, at the outset or you are going to lose before you’ve even started.
Imagine a game of rugby or football and none of the players knowing where the goal posts are. How can they ever score if they don’t know exactly what the target is? Life is exactly the same.
Success has a different meaning for each of us. Not everyone wants to be Prime Minister or a superstar footballer or even a footballer’s wife. Small dreams have as much value as large ones.
I can tell you exactly when I realised that I could do things my mum thought I couldn’t. I was seven years old. I wanted to dance, like my friends.
At the age of three, mum took me to ballet lessons but because my she had wrapped me up in cotton wool, so to speak, I was scared of doing anything without her and was too shy to go into the dance studio alone. All the other mums waited outside for their little cherubs but I wouldn’t let my mum out of my sight. I was scared. I don’t know exactly what I was scared of though – I don’t think I thought the bogey man lived in the dance studio.
Of course this couldn’t continue and mum had to pull me out of ballet lessons. I remained an incredibly shy child. My mum loved me so much she wouldn’t put me in situations that upset me.
When I reached seven, some of my friends were going to ballroom dancing lessons. I wanted to go. Mum said, no. It was no good for me, I was too shy.
I made my mind up in that instant, standing at the window, looking out at the back garden that I was never going to be shy or scared again. I didn’t want to miss out on opportunities because I was afraid to give things a go.
I remember saying, “Yes but what if I’m good at ballroom dancing?”
Luckily, mum allowed me to enrol for lessons at the Johnstone School of Dancing and guess what? I was good at ballroom dancing. I mean, really, really good at it! I knew that I would be.
Not only that but from the day I made the decision to dispel my fear, I have never been afraid of being on stage, singing or speaking in public. In fact I crave that kind of attention all the time. The more people there are in the audience, the more I love it.
At the age of seven, I just made the decision that I was going to be an extrovert instead of an introvert and never looked back. I’m not saying there have never been things that I’ve been nervous of but I refuse to allow myself to be held back by the fear of what might or might not happen and that goes for everything in life.
You see, the power to be what you want to be is within you. If you want something bad enough you will find a way to achieve it. I bet you’ve heard that said a thousand times by successful people and the reason is: it’s absolutely true.
Don’t think I’d love to, but what if I fail or make a fool of myself. Think ah - but what if I try and I’m good at it? - Don’t let the years slip away and find yourself thinking, I wonder what life would be like if I’d followed my dreams. Recognise what your dream is and chase it until you catch it.
Know also, that it’s ok for your dreams to change along life’s path but whatever you do, don’t let anyone make you think you can’t achieve your heart’s desire.
Recognise what lies beyond your rainbow and every day visualise your life when your dream comes true, for what we think about comes about. And that is a subject for another day.